Messy Thing Called Life

The Question was asked of me recently, "How do we turn negative Baggage into Positive, consistent, self motivating Goodness?" Well, That is an AWESOME question! And I've got a Lot to say about it, but I'll try to keep it short and sweet! :) First, "negative baggage." The reference in itself has an answer in it. What's your negative baggage? Think about it a bit. Now, If you weren't Judging it in some way, making it good or bad, It's just your "stuff". The "stuff" that makes you who you ARE today.

Everyone has their stuff. Are you regretting things you've done, decisions you've made? Relationships that didn't work out? Our "stuff"(I much prefer that word to" baggage") is what makes us who we are, right at this moment. And RIGHT at this moment, that STUFF that made us who we are, is part of the reason that Someone loves us, respects us, believes we are strong, depends on us. Our Stuff isn't baggage to Others, unless we Lug it around, open it up and beat ourselves up with it, and then tuck it away so we can do it again later. Whatever is in your past, can be relabeled so you can let it go. Were you a victim of something terrible? Relabel. Because you, my friend, are a SURVIVOR. Was that Ex-husband a complete mistake?? I've seen so many amazing kids that are here because of "mistakes" in choosing a partner. Maybe, we can call Him(or her) an amazing learning experience, Where you really learned what you will and will not accept in a partner. Leaving an unsuitable partner means you stood up for yourself, you learned about Loving yourself a little, and you made yourself a priority. And THAT, is a good thing! Maybe you are regretting a chance you didn't take. You can BOTH turn this into a "I let it slip by because I know more good things are on the way," and, "I forgive myself for missing that one! Because if I keep looking back to the past, the NEXT chance is most likely going to pass right by unnoticed! "

The people I've met, with the biggest, most giving hearts, are often the hardest on themselves. And more often then not, are the most likely to hold on to their past mistakes or choices and Judge them, and refuse to let them go.

If you want to turn that negative baggage into positive, motivating goodness, you First have to let go of judgement of self. I know you wouldn't judge a friend the way you let your inner voice speak to you. Take EACH thing in your life that you consider "negative baggage." Sit with it, and Relabel it. Make it NOT negative. If you simply can't find the right way to turn something to make it positive, forgive yourself for whatever it is, With Love, the way you would forgive your dearest friend, or your child. With practice, you won't be Bogged Down by the negatives in your past. Be vigilant when those things crop up, and try to reclassify, and relabel, every time they surface.

With practice, you will uplifted by all you have been through, and how far you have come. With practice, that "negative baggage", really can be something that you are Proud of, the twists and turns of the very real, messy, unpredictable thing we are here to experience, called life. And if you've made it this far, through all of that, What AREN'T you capable of?